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"Anarchy is not intended to be sustainable. It is not a system of government, a codified list of rules and beliefs, or a mind set geared toward cultural constructivism. It is a spark, a flash, a small flame that ignites a paradigm-obliterating explosion. It is destructive by nature. It lies dormant and, like diesel fuel, can only be ignited by tremendous pressure. It deconstructs. It strips flesh from bone and grinds bone to dust. It is doomed to consumption in the conflagration instigated by its own primal spark. It is a catalyst. It is tinder. It is powder and fuse."

Rich Oliver



Gods-eye View

Sexual attraction cements a relationship if the relationship can be consummated within the first year to 18 months...after that, hormone levels drop and the pace becomes less frenetic. That's why a lot of young LDS couples meet, court and marry in less than a year, then wonder what happened when the attraction wanes. Marrying because you can't wait to have sex is not much different than having sex because you can't wait for marriage.
A long term relationship should be based on trust, compatibility and the long conversation…not so much on hot newlywed sex. Really, it passes.

It’s not a bad thing being attracted to your fiancĂ©, just make sure that isn’t the only compatibility you share before you tie the knot ESPECIALLY if neither one of you has any previous sexual experience. Sex isn’t amazing the first time, or with everyone and people change after the initial attraction wears thin. Put a year or so in the courtship before you tie the knot….or get down and dirty and see if the attraction is real and not based on anticipation and fantasy. Sometimes the anticipation is the real attraction and the actual sexual union is anticlimactic.

Does he have a job? Does he like kids? Is he kind? Is he honest? You should be having these kinds of discussions before you let the hormones dictate the pace and path of the rest of your adult life. Also…it’s a lot harder to be the attracted one in a relationship than the attractor, believe me. It’s better if he’s into you, honestly.

If he matches up on all areas, and you still wanna get married, then by all means do it! Marriage is a gamble at any rate with 50-50 odds. Just hedge your bets at the onset…

ALSO is anyone else creeped out inviting the spirit into the bedchamber or even wondering if your naked, awkward, impassioned, bare-assed blunderings, confused forays and spontaneous guttural expressions are “pleasing” to your father, even a Heavenly one? I am afraid that you may be in for a very, very rude awakening when things are unwrapped and plugged in if you are not. Sex isn’t like the movies ya know…or maybe you don’t…We are talking about an act even more private, and often less elegant, than using the toilet here…. Is God invited into that as well? Jeepers. Ug. Damn. Jeepers again. Ew.

The very thought of spiritualizing sex on that level is pretty much nature’s birth control for me. Seriously? If my wife had asked to say a prayer before our first night, it would have taken several bottles of Viagra to restore the mojo and a quart of Johnny Walker to dissociate from the image of a heavenly voyeur…. I am soooooo creeped out right now……